We all need more fun, right?
In these times with very few distractions, we all need more fun. We spoke about fun and playfulness last week in my group programme – Harmonious Family, Happy Life – and they all got super inspired. One of them came back with a story.
It was about how she came into her living room and found the whole floor was covered with toys.
“As if a toy shop had just vomited on it,” she said.
But instead of getting exasperated or frustrated, she put on some music and created a game whereby they would name a toy and then try to be the first to put it away. They all got really sweaty and had a great time, and it lifted the mood and got the floor completely clear.
So how can we all do something like this?
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If you follow me, you’ll know that I talk a lot about connection. Connecting is incredibly important because it helps everyone feel better. One way of connecting that we often forget is fun and playfulness
When we’re fun and playful, we’re attuned to children, aren’t we? We’re in their element.
Children so naturally have fun. They’re effortlessly playful and find silliness very funny.
For us parents, it’s different – we may even react to silliness. And if you’re on the path of conscious parenting – if you’re keen to develop your parenting to create a great family life – one thing that can happen is that we start taking ourselves as parents really seriously.
Which CAN create unnecessary conflict and heaviness. I’ll give you an example – and this may be a little challenge for you.
Poos, farts and wees! Do you find that kind of talk annoying?
The things is, so many children – I want to say all children – find poos, farts and pees really, really funny. Maybe you can’t actually stretch that far, to find it funny, but I recommend just letting that kind of silliness happen, because it’s harmless, right?
And the funny thing is that when we don’t take things so seriously and just allow that kind of talk, we actually get less of it because we’re not trying to try to stamp it down. (Unfortunately, trying to stop children saying this kind of thing normally leads to making it funnier and having more of it.) So I recommend just going with it.
But how can we actually create fun?
Some parents know how to spontaneously bring a joke, and get everyone rolling around laughing. But we’re not all like that.
So, here are some more ideas for you, in case you’d like to get some help with creating fun. Because we can all bring fun into our family lives – it’s not hard. Here are three starting points for you:
#1 – Funny Noises
Squeals and squeaks, talking like an animal, or imitating your child’s favourite character. Maybe talking like you’ve got a blocked nose, for example – ‘By dose is blocked!’
Experiment with different noises – and see what makes your child laugh.
#2 – Funny Walks
If you can’t bring your child to wash their hands, perhaps, you could walk to the bathroom together like a penguin.
“Let’s be penguins!”
You’ll probably have some success with that.
#3 – Fun with Language
I used to do a lot of this when my son was small because I enjoyed it, making up rhymes and the whole pantomime of misunderstanding what he’d said. I wouldn’t recommend you do this all the time, mind you. It could have the effect that your child doesn’t feel you’re ever taking them seriously.
But, if they say something like, “I don’t want to do that,” you could respond with, “You don’t want to chew that?”
It’s possible that the reason they were pushing back in the first place was because they wanted to draw something out of you, to bring you to be more present, or lighten up. This fun with language can be a way of connecting with them.
When you respond like that, they’ll respond with a smile or a laugh and you will have changed the whole atmosphere.
The other thing you can do with language is just say things that are ridiculous!
I remember a time in Devon when we were climbing up a steep hill and my son got left behind. He was about four or five.
He was dawdling and it really was quite steep. And because of that, I didn’t want to go all the way down there to fetch him, but all the calling for him to, “Come on,” just wasn’t working. He was slowing down to an absolute snail’s pace.
I looked at the hedgerow. I got inspired, plucked a leaf, stuck it up my nose and said, “Hey, I’ve got a strawberry plant growing out of my nose. Come and see!”
And he literally ran up that hill.
So sometimes, saying crazy things, allowing yourself to be inspired, can really help.
I hope you’ve got some new ideas.
If you want to get a more complete overview, Fun and Positivity is one of my Six Wise Parenting Powers, and along with the other five, they’ll help you to create a fun, enjoyable and happy family.
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